Friday, May 11, 2007

Don't skip the sex part!

I was in the hospital following my cataract surgery, woozy from the sedative. Robert held my hand, attentive to the nurse who was reading us a checklist of postoperative instructions.

"Normal daily activity is fine, such as walking or light reading. Nothing strentous or jarring for one week, such as lifting heavy weights, bending all the way over, jogging..." she read in a crisp, clear voice.

Suddenly her voice lowered, becoming girlish and tentative. "Sex..." she paused, then whispered, "Do you want to know about sex?"

"Yes! Read the part about sex!" Robert and I almost yelled.

"You may resume sexual activities after one or two days," she finished in a whisper, then raised her voice to the pre-sex level to read the rest of the instructions about bathing, protecting my operated eye, and treating discomfort.

"She almost skipped the sex part," Robert said to me afterwards.

Why did the nurse feel the need to ask our permission and then whisper this one bit of information? I guess I should be used to this assumption that people of our age (63 and 70) are no longer interested in sex, and that approaching us with sexual information is embarrassing -- but I wish this would change!

I keep saying that my mission is to change society one mind at a time. But darn, it's taking a long time! Join me, please!

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